Second
Life celebrated fifteen years on June 15, 2018.
It is hard to believe the humble beginnings of this virtual world with a
few prims and an ocean. These days
Linden Labs advertises Second Life as being a place you may make money with a
business, go on adventures or create anything you may imagine. Years ago, Second Life reported to users that
a great deal of the female avatars were men in real life. This falls within the promised activity to
create anything you may imagine. This
phenomenon has been the subject of many forums and some studies in the greater
gaming community. What do we think about
the person’s gender behind an avatar?
What are the expectations in Second Life as to the person behind the
avatar?
An
article in Uproxx.com published an article recently titled “They’re All
Men”. Writing about MMORPGs [Massively
Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games], the author reformed the popular
acronym. Reframing MMORG, the author
said these letters stand for Men Masquerading Occasionally as Really Pretty
Girls. Some gamers argue that by
choosing a female avatar they are treated more nicely by males giving them
certain advantages such as assistance in battle or locating rare items. I am big World of Warcraft fan. I don’t have any male avatars in WOW. Instead I have a bevy female in multiple
realms as various skill levels.
“Researchers from five universities across the US and Canada studied
footage of 375 gamers playing a custom WOW quest. They wanted to determine if difference in
online behaviors in characters of different genders aligned with the societal
expectations of conduct from men and women.”
A very complicated way to say the researchers wanted to see if there was
mansplaining going on in world. What
they found is not surprising. Men playing
women behave differently that women playing women. This difference is most apparent in the way
they move their avatar. In WOW men
playing women tended to jump 116 times more often than women playing
women. They also tended to walk
backwards much more frequently.
As
with this study of men within WOW behavior, most in SL will claim they can tell
a man in a woman avatar. I went out in
the community and asked several men and women if they believed they could tell
the gender behind the avatar. Most said
yes, they could tell. The traits I heard
most often were opinions expressed about the breasts of the avi or the general
promiscuity.
In
the online publication syfywire.com published an article “How Science Can Tell
When Dudes are Pretending to be Women MMORPGS”.
This article began with stating the obvious, sometimes it is just “cool”
to be a female avatar. Sometimes we want
to step outside of ourselves and be someone different. This article also cited the US/Canadian study
of 375 WOW gamers. Men are much more
likely to play women than women are to play men. In the study 23% of the men switched genders
to only 7% of the women. This article
quickly came around to the question I wanted an answer to most. Does anyone really care the gender of the person
behind an avi?
The
short answer is that no, most people asked the question if a person’s real-life
gender identity was important said “no”.
The prevailing opinion I encountered both in person within SL and from
reading forums is that demanding to know a person’s rl gender identity goes
against what SL is all about. Creating
anything you may imagine means just that in a nutshell. Many people I spoke with were quite adamant
that a person’s real life is that person’s business. If someone chooses to share information that
is the choice of that person. I learned
a great deal from these responses. I
live in SL with a great deal of my private information available through my
profile or through google. [hears the
tap tap tapping of keys on keyboards googling me 😊] I decided to share some of the
gender issues I learned about while doing this story.
One
resident wanted to know if there are men available that will date a female avi
who is a man in real life. These are
some of the responses:
•
“Being
female in SL is not an unspoken promise of being a real-life female. And even if the user behind the avatar is
female…there is no right for anyone to expect to get a verification or any RL
information, to begin with. If someone worries that the other person
might have a different gender, they shouldn’t go dating in a virtual
world…seriously. After all its
SL and if the time spend with a certain person is enjoyable…who cares who they
are in RL?” Syo Emerald
•
“To
me personally I don’t care and those who do yes are usually not worth his/her
time. Honestly if they are never going
to meet what’s the difference?” “Unless
I am going to meet someone I don’t care what sex they are playing” Sephina
Frostbite
•
“I
am a male playing a female avi and I’m open about it in my profile. I’ve found guys really want nothing to do
with me” Scarlet Waits
Another question posed about gender
is does playing a woman in SL give any insight to how women feel in RL? This was met with a resounding “No” to which
I will add “duh”. Some of the responses
are worth sharing:
•
“Not
really. Maybe a little? SL is a whole little encapsulated
experience. Being a woman in SL will let you experience what is it’s like to be
a woman in SL.” RhondA Huntress
•
“Nope
not even close” Aislin Ceawlin
•
“In
RL, I’ve never had a guy try to grab my crotch from 100m away, while I’m
clothes shopping, as their arms just ain’t that long, and their
girlfriends/wives will beat the crap out of them if they try, just before the
police arrive to drag them to jail. And
so on…No, female in SL is remarkably unlike Female in RL” Klytyna
I circle around to one of the
original questions; is it even necessary to identify your RL gender in SL? If you want people to know what is the best
way to present yourself. Here are some
responses to that question:
•
“Start
by putting in your profile something like “Already in a relationship…NOT
LOOKING!” come to think of it, that’s where you can end it too. No one has any need to know your real
gender…ever. [Unless YOU decide to tell them.”
Darrius gothly
•
“Nothing
wrong with it. What is the point of
having a second life if you can’t swap gender.
If you want people to know put it in your profile. Just put it in a s a statement of fact
without either apologizing or being aggressive about it [e.g. So if you don’t
like it you can…<don’t do this). Most
people are pretty cool about this sort of thing in SL and for the rest you have
Block, Derender and Shift+Ctrl+H” Ohjiro Watanabe
•
“Unless
told otherwise, I accept people as their avis are. For the most part all of SL is RP of a sort. Very few of us actually look like the avatar
we’re created. There are a lot of guys
in SL using female avis for several reasons…clothes, clothes and
…clothes.” “You really only need to
“tell” if you’re going to be in a relationship.
For casual, it’s no one’s business but your own.” Bobbie Faulds
In the end, what you reveal in SL is
your business be it gender or another attribute of your RL. I encourage you to always remember that each
avi you meet has a human being behind that avatar. Each person deserves to be treated with
respect when you engage with them. It is
not deceptive to create a different gender than the one you have in real. As always, it is deceptive to lie to real
people in world. If you tell someone you
are a female in real life when you are not, this is deceptive and hurtful. If you don’t want someone to know your RL
gender, do not reveal it. Don’t
lie. As everyone I spoke to related to
me, most people in SL have been hurt at one time or another by someone’s
lies. It is fine to role play, it is
fine to create whatever image you wish for your avatar. It is your right to disclose what you wish about
your real life. If you decide to
disclose, be honest.
Some avatars names have been changed
at their request. Resources used for
this story beyond personal interviews may be located at these websites:
Photos by Karmaghna Ulrik
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