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Misinformation is the problem of our era. All the time people post untruths for political, ideological, or financial reasons, or just for fun. Millions of people believe things that are not true. The situation will get worse as technology improves and deepfakes become common.
The worst examples of false information come from North Korea and Russia but there are plenty from the West as well. How can we trust anything?
How do we fight it? Could AI help, perhaps by checking everything posted? But why would we trust AI? Or the people who program AI? Are there other solutions?
Will there ever be a time when people can rely on information? Was there ever such a time?
Come to GeekSpeak on Saturday at noon SLT to ask if we are lost. Bring your factsheets and your friends!
IM Vulcan, who teaches a meditation class every Wednesday in the GeekSpeak auditorium, if you have ideas for new subjects.
What follows are the results of extensive research, where we surveyed dozens of Subject Matter Experts on the topic. We have distilled the collected wisdom from 33 of those experts. Altogether, these individuals have amassed over four CENTURIES of residency in SecondLife, totaling 435 years of experience! Let me encourage you to read and heed their guidance and suggestions as you navigate your own way through the pleasure and pitfalls of “love on the grid”
In Part 1 of our series, our panel of experts
identified some of the more cringe-worthy mistakes that noobs make during cybersex. You can read Part One by going to:
http://www.slenquirer.com/2022/01/cybersex-101-noob-guide-to-love-on-grid.html
Here in Part 2, we will look at what our seasoned experts believe makes for a particularly good Cyber sexual encounter,
Finally, in Part 3, we will wrap up with an open
question to allow our seasoned experts to expand on anything else they
wanted to share about the topic
Last month I asked our panel of experts “What makes for a
particularly good Cybersex experience for you?”
One of the first answers I got was particularly telling when the respondent wrote “is there such a thing as a “good experience” with a
newbie?
For the purposes of this article, I decided to separate
the advice given by our panel of experts into three phases of cybersex. Generally, these would be BEFORE – what to do prior to entering the bedroom; DURING the actual act of Cyber Coitus, and
finally, AFTER you have “done the deed”
BEFORE:
As with anything worth doing, laying the groundwork, so
to speak, is important in any endeavor, but especially so in an activity as
intimate as Cybersex
Go Mesh or Go Home
A recurring theme here was that your avi is
important. SL is largely a visual
medium, and the visuals, though not the ONLY factor in great Cyber, does have
an impact. Comments included:
·
“Have a well put together avatar. Don't just buy the avatar, open the box, and
rush out to play. Put some effort into
being unique. Most people who draw your
attention put a lot of effort into their appearance and want the same in
return. “
·
“Of course, the guy must always take
care of how he looks. If the woman is
always making sure she is looking her hottest or most beautiful, then the guy
needs to do that as well. I like the avi of the other person to be nice and
pleasant as a person”
Foreplay –
Another crucial element is what you do in the time leading up to the actual sex
itself. Panelists were most insistent on the importance of this element:
·
“I love foreplay, the kissing and
exploring with hands and fingers. When it comes time to talking dirty, I
love to have my partner use compelling
language and be as detailed and descriptive as possible so that I can be
totally immersed in the fantasy”
·
“The chase/foreplay is hot. Don't sell it short. Spend some time with the erotic foreplay to
get your partner engaged. Don't just
jump right to the sex, as then we are back to what I said about making an alt
and just playing with yourself!”
·
“For me personally I like for it to look
like an actual date. I’m not a fan of
all these sex sims where people just go for casual sex. I like to go out
somewhere nice. It's great to talk to the person and establish a rapport. Then
when it's time for sex the furniture has good animations and isn't outdated. I
already mentioned the emoting but with that you don't want to overdo it either
and try to type a book with every post there's plenty of middle ground.”
·
For me, a connection makes it sexy, so I
like anticipation. Talking to someone a
few times, getting to know them, looking forward to their IMs. Then, when we finally DO get to the sex, I am
ready to tear their clothing off. That
anticipation makes is so much more
erotic.
Communicate
“What we’ve got heah, is a failyeah, to
communicate!” Just
like the Iconic line from Cool Hand Luke, how you communicate with your
partner is crucial to having a successful and memorable engagement.
Our panel of experts all had something to say about the
importance of communication.
·
Open and honest communication about what
you like and don't like, just like real life. Respect your partner and don't
think that just because they are pixels, they can't be hurt - just like you.
·
A good experience for me is when I find
myself in an interesting conversation
that leads into an emotional interaction that was completely unexpected
·
etting to know someone…see if there is a
connection with the other person before jumping into bed makes for a great
time. Get to know that person see what they like and don’t like. I have found
if I am with someone I did not take the time to get to know first it can lead
to a disappointing experience. No one wants that especially me...When you find
someone that you can relate to will want more and will be happier because of it..
·
I'm like any other woman. Being romanced
and paid attention to, are high on my list.
in SL, it’s all about the chase.
but its where the chase ends, and you are with your guy on steady terms,
that is when things could either blossom or die.
DURING
OK…You have scoped out the terrain, made the approach,
and now it is time to close the deal.
Even when it seems to be going well…you can still blow it and end up
alone (and frustrated) if you don’t follow a few basic rules. The Panelists shared these gems from their
personal, and considerable, experience.
One person said:
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If you get a chance, learn the furniture
you are on so you know what poses and animations do what, so there is not a lot
of flipping around. * If you don't know the furniture, then make a joke out of
it. Laugh, have fun. Just like in rl sex, being comfortable makes
it so much more erotic.
Respond to your Partner
·
I like being with someone who is
responsive, eloquent, and fun, able to interact fast, keeping some rhythm as
opposed to someone just changing poses at their convenience, hardly
able/willing to talk. I've left a few there on the spot, logging off, because
of that more than once, feeling like an inflatable doll :-P
·
I like someone who responds to what I say
and do. If I say "This feels so good." a response, even a simple
"ty" or "yes it does" is preferable to no response at all
·
I like the interaction, knowing the
other person is there with you on the moment. not multi-tasking and just
responding with moans
·
It is pretty much the same like making
love in RL - don't be boring!
Communication
The need to communicate effectively is as important now
as it is in other phases of the experience.
Some of the more cogent comments from our panelists include:
·
Communication is key during Cybersex.
One of the biggest mistakes noobies make, (and some experienced guys also), is
to ignore my emotes. If I'm panting and moaning and telling you not to stop
"F--king me", that is not the time to click the menu and put me in
the cuddle menu. Another one is when I'm screaming, "OMG, right there,
that feels amazing, yeeess yesss right there!" Don’t change the pose. it’s
a turn off to think that the only reason
the guy is having sex with me is so he can watch himself perform in every
gymnastic position he can find to put me in.
·
Put some detail into your emoting. I can SEE what we are doing, but your words
are what can make me FEEL it. Think of
what you would be doing to me in RL, and tell me. The detail makes it hot.
·
Creative Emoting. Something more than nonsense sounds like
"mmmmm" or "Oh my god oh my god oh my god" Use adjectives. Short sentences... It's more important to
keep the pace going than it is to write a four-paragraph porn novel. Be respectful. Let the other person finish and then craft
your reply to make sense in the context of that the other person just wrote.
Try to become codependent in the emoting and not go off on your own tangent.
Compliment the partner often during and after sex
Multisensory
Great Cybersex takes more than just some cool animations
on a pose ball. More than just sexy
emotes. More than just a sexy
voice. Really GREAT Cybersex take
appealing to several sources of stimulation.
Here again, our panelists were quick to share their
experiences.
·
I love the visual as well as hearing her
voice change in my ears. being able to move to a pose I would in RL.
·
I mean, it's not like you are sitting on
a couch and feeling each other…you have to be able to talk about it and share
your feelings. And don't assume she (or he!) wants to know what you are doing
in RL during all this. and that’s another point. If you get to know someone
pretty well, sex is more natural and even if you make mistakes, they won't just
run off :)
·
Whatever you do, don't stop in the
middle for question-and-answer time
·
So guys, let me give you some friendly
advice: first, don't rely on the “Device” (Xcite, etc) scripts to do the
talking for you, and second, stop thinking about cybersex as porn. Start thinking
about it as creative writing instead. Show off some language skills and some
imagination to the ladies, and you'll find them more than willing ;-)
·
I never felt the urge to use the pose
balls. I rely more on actual words. When poses don’t work, they tend to throw off
one if not both parties making it hard to get to where you need to be in your
head.
·
I have experienced some of the most
intense times with someone, even when there are minimal animations involved. It’s
the erotic images and thoughts that turn me on, not throwing me into a
different pose every two seconds until you learn the menu.
AFTER:
So then, you have taken your time, you have demonstrated
a caring attitude, you connected with your partner on a deeper level, you both
reached a “Happy Ending”. Now what?
Our panel of experts was pretty much of one mind on this point. Hang out for a bit. The suggestions included:
·
“Stay for at least ten minutes. Women don't like cum and go guys. If they poof after two minutes.....ooooh what
a lover”
·
“Some chat before and after...... treat
me with respect”
So there you have it, Folks. Incorporating some or all of these ideas will help make you a better Cyber lover, And Hey, If you’re gonna do something, why not do it right and be the best you can at it?
Stay tuned in a couple of weeks when our 33-member panel
of sexperts wraps up our 3-part series with some of their favorite personal
anecdotes about the subject.
Be There
Aloha
JB
What will we send in the future? If the data limit of our eyes is reached will we communicate directly via neuralink to our visual cortex? Will we send each other pictures and videos? Will we be able to send emotions directly?
If we can communicate with emotions and pictures will there still be a need for words? Will we lose the ability to use words?
Come and discuss the future of communication while you still can at 30 bytes per minute. Bring your 2 thumbs, and your friends!
IM Vulcan Viper, who teaches a meditation class every Wednesday at 1pm in the GeekSpeak auditorium, if you have ideas for new subjects.
Social media is a must-have for smartphone users and computer geeks with an appetite for socializing on a global scale with family, friends, and friends of friends. Others rely heavily on social media for increasing business exposure. Without social media, many businesses and social lives would be reduced to phone calls, party lines, snail mail, old school chat rooms, emails, texts, and virtual worlds, especially during a pandemic. There isn’t a social network geared towards avatars in a virtual world. Unfortunately, many accounts were suspended from Facebook that had Avatar profiles. The good news is Wiply is a social media network created just for avatars!
Create by Ramses Meredith, It is an all-in-one platform with numerous options, like an Instant Chat system (with the possibility to create your channels), a messaging system, and a high-resolution photo album. Facebook does not allow high-resolution photos, and Flickr needs a paid account to add SLURL or URL to the photo. All these options are linked to the page/group/events, so everything is merged to create one unique and comfortable place where you can work and increase or create your Second Life business.
Interview with Ramses Meredith
SLE: Hi Ramses, it is a great honor to sit down with you for an Interview. You’ve been busy in Second Life since 2008 from creating clothing with Egoisme and then and Exchinima avatar shapes to getting into the techy stuff. Can you tell me how you discovered Second Life and a little bit about your background and what you’ve done in Second Life?
Ramses: Hello and thank you for hosting me today. I have been interested in Second Life since somebody at University told me about a virtual world created (back in 2004).
I was interested, but my focus was on artificial intelligence, so I have not cared a lot. Later I went back to focus on Second Life since was remarkably interesting for me, my focus was on building and a design studio.
So, I have begun to create outfits and tattoos at the early beginning, just to create something for me, but people were keeping asking me to sell to them, so I have turned in a little store. Then I wanted to create skins and clothes and so I have expanded the business, meanwhile, I was doing research to improve marketing strategies to apply on Real Life.
I used Second Life as an incubator to create a fast way solution to apply for long-term plans in RL.
And then I have begun to create a social network, my old project which was called at the time (we talk around 1998) Community Plaza. And now this is going to become a place for virtual word players and not only.
SLE: A lot of avatars with Facebook accounts were disabled due to fake identities and names being that platform’s issue. I’m glad to see a new social media network just for avatars. Can you tell our readers about the various features they can expect with Wiply?
Ramses: Well on Wiply I added many “modules” which are usually needed by virtual players like Second Life avatars:
Contest module, where finally you can have a fair contest, no doubts about the source of votes: single votes by users or by a jury, both with rules.
Crowdfunding module, since Second Life users have a strong sense of willingness to help those less fortunate than themselves.
Business directory: now they can create an own “business page” where to link album photos, video channel, offers page, even a discount ticket option;
Jobs module: now you can post the offers and research of jobs on the same platform where you do other things;
Courses: How many times we have thought to find a course for fashion design or 3d modeling or fashion modeling, but each time we need to browse the search in world like no tomorrow! Now you can find it easily.
News: we have a system to include news from the most important websites, related to second life for example, and trustable since the source will be monitored, so no fake news is accepted.
Mobile apps: you can be sure to receive the news with push notices directly on your smartphone, or even on your pc, way better than wait for inworld notices only.
And less or more these are some of the news we have, but most important is I have created an all-in-one place where you can have all you need with few clicks.
SLE: Privacy and security or important to many avatars in Second Life, that is why many do not share their real names, How can you ensure the information they share on Wiply is secure. Is there monitoring in place to ensure avatars are not being trolled or harassed by other members and their information can be kept private?
Ramses: we have strong security, and privacy is one of our main goals. There is a verification system, in case of doubts, we will require to validate their account sending us, in complete privacy, their documents to verify.
Plus, once we have enough members, I will let people choose their representative to monitor and help to find out who acts like a troll or who harasses.
Of course, at Wiply works the principle of “is innocent until proven guilty” and only in heavy situations, we will collaborate with authorities, until that, I will spank personally the guilty hehe.
BUT everything will be done with big care about privacy and will not tolerate any break of that main rule.
SLE: There are two main ways to use social media, for business, or personal profiles. Can you explain how Wipley will benefit each group?
Ramses: Of course, I am extremely glad to explain: the user can create its avatar, “VIPs” can create their page, and also can create the own page for the business, as a separate entity, but both under his/her control.
So for example, you have a business called XYZ, and you are also an influencer, you can have separate pages/groups for each situation, and only you, if you want, can know about it.
It is important because it helps to keep your privacy safe if you do not want to be involved directly in a business page, and on the other side, it allows you to bring also your team in the group/page and showcase them, as given them roles to be used to manage the group or the posts or the images/video submissions, as an example.
SLE: Can you upload videos and photos to Wiply? If so, how much space can a member use?
Ramses: You can upload videos and photos and do live videos too, without restrictions. We trust to find sponsors and sell advertising to keep this social network active. At moment, our main Sponsor, and have to say with a bit of pride, is the first to have to trust us, is Amazon AWS, the informatics department of amazon, well known for its strong infrastructure, which was used also to host Second Life, and with their program, they have given us some prizes for the Wiply project, so we can count on strong servers with SSD hard disk, faster response, and big data space.
SLE: Every platform has a term of service t protect both the platform and the user. What is your TOS? (Do you have a link to it?)
Ramses: Of course, we have our TOS, which is created by Real Life lawyers to make it easy for everybody to understand it. Our TOS follows the main guidelines of every State, with some special remarks for the EU, California, UK, and so on. We also care about intellectual privacy, and we have also a strong Privacy statement.
You can find them at https://wiply.net/help/terms and https://wiply.net/help/privacy
Opposite than other social networks, we have integrated 2 options:
One is about adult content visibility; it is a switch on the top menu bar to allow you to hide those contents that can hurt your sensibility or are prohibited for those under 18.
The other is a fingerprint icon, if you click it, the social go in safety mode, and nobody can use it or see what you are doing.
SLE: Feedback is so important in business and created a platform avatars want to be part of. Do you take suggestions for improving the platform? If so what new features have you implemented?
Ramses: For us it is vital, at this stage, to know the feedbacks from our users, so we have integrated two side options: one is to leave feedbacks directly from the website or write us.
Also, for Second Life Residents, it is possible to contact me directly inworld. We are a human-size social for now, so will be easy to talk freely about issues or suggestions because I am even open to them.
For me, knowing which errors are, to fix or how I can improve the social is particularly important, because all of them will help me to make a better place for the users. And it is my goal.
SLE: I wish the all the best with Wiply. Is there anything else you would like to share with our readers?
Ramses: Join and be part of our family you will not regret it! It is not a common social, plus we have an option you can share your posts directly with other socials, so you can use Wiply as a base for your adventures! Just a tip for events and store owners: we have mobile apps; we can send more information to users via push notices and via newsletter. All this with respect for user privacy, so if I were you, I would give it a try!
Additional Information
URL: https://wiply.net
Group: secondlife:///app/group/b88be1b1-fef3-8015-0d34-a3b8e4147356/about
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wiply.net
Twitter: https://twitter.com/WiplySocial
Preferred Contact: Ramses Meredith inworld
What was the origin of our language system? Did it start with humans or did some animals have a language before us? Do some animals have a language, or a proto language, now? Maybe our language started as a sign language, maybe spoken words came later.
Did we once have just one language on Earth? What made languages grow apart? Are there some universal words, like ‘ouch’ perhaps, that exist in all languages?
What is the future of language? Will we eventually have one language over all the Earth, just as we once did when our species began? Will that language be a spoken, or written, or sign language? Will we forever keep changing our ways to communicate?
Help us to find the answers in GeekSpeak. Bring all your international and animal friends!
IM Vulcan Viper, who teaches a meditation class every Wednesday at 1pm SLT in the GeekSpeak auditorium, if you have ideas for new subjects.
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