The relationship
between a Daddy Dom and his babygirl is
very intimate and close, with a level of trust that can only be gained through
a deep knowledge of one another both physically and emotionally. Because of
this bond the emotional safety, as well as the physical, are of the utmost
importance to the Daddy Dom. Adult Sims
can be filled with predators and people,
both male and female, that do not comprehend basic courtesy and the meaning of
the word no. This can create an
environment that doesn’t allow a babygirl
to feel safe or welcome. While this can be true of a sim with any rating, it’s
especially true for adult sims.
The question then arises,
what makes a babygirl’s safety any different than any submissive or anyone in
general? The answer to that lies with the
babygirl herself. Most, but not all, women that identify as a babygirl do so because they find a release in
being free of stress and the worries that are
associated with the struggles of everyday life. This release is achieved by allowing themselves to surrender
control to their Daddy and creating a mental space in which they feel
comfortable and almost childlike. This
does not mean they regress into a child, by no means is that true. It simply
means they find a headspace in which they
are free of those concerns. Sometimes called “little space,” this state of mind
often leaves babygirls feeling vulnerable when someone they are unfamiliar with
speaks to, or contacts them.
When you combine
“little space” with a predator, the results can be disastrous and may, in some
instances, leave a babygirl mentally
scarred. Because of this potential danger,
it’s very important to a Daddy Dom to ensure his girl’s safety. As a Daddy Dom
myself I know that it can be impossible to be everywhere that my girl goes, so
I investigated several babygirl friendly
and themed sims to see what policies and rules they have in place to help keep
their members safe.
I was surprised that
the vast majority of the sims I visited didn’t seem to take this threat
seriously. Many have a simple policy of “mute and block” the individual doing
the harassing. This, however, leaves the
person free to find someone else on the sim to target. While that policy will
resolve the issue for most people, a babygirl
needs more. She needs to feel safe and know that someone has taken actions to
protect her in these instances. Some of the sims had better measures in place,
such as giving the girls a contact reference, usually a member of management
who can take further action if needed.
There were a couple
of exceptions. One sim, called Daddy’s babygirl
Haven, offered more in the way of safety measures. I spoke with MisCandyPink,
owner of the sim. I asked what she did to help protect the girls.
“Many things, one of
which is that of the community’s support,
understanding and positive outlook on things. We have been able to build an
amazing support system. My "rules" are simple. Treat others with
respect, or you will not last long here,”
she said.
She went on to say “This is a babygirl
haven. Therefore, the girls here are my
priority. We have all gone through something similar here in SL, so there are
usually people here who a babygirl can
consult after having similar circumstances happen to them.”
The other sim that
took care of the babygirls is called
Daddy's Secret Garden & Mu Phi Omicron Sorority. I also spoke with the
owner of that sim, named Melly Fleming. She explained to me that the safety and
wellbeing of the babygirls were of tantamount importance there. Every
issue brought up to her, or any other member
was taken seriously and investigated. If someone overstepped their boundaries,
immediate action was taken, and the consequences all depended on the
severity of the infraction. As a Daddy, I
was very impressed at the lengths Daddy’s Secret Garden went to provide a safe
environment. Melly explained that the more serious issues were discussed with
other staff members to ensure that no personal bias was involved with a
decision that would involve one of the girls or even someone harassing them.
The sim also had a set of rules clearly
posted at the landing zone that was very
clear and easy to understand. This is a
place I would feel my girl would be safe.
Second Life has its
dangers. Predators are everywhere and can target anyone, but a babygirl is typically the most vulnerable.
Because of this, it is important for
places that call themselves a babygirl
sim to take extra precautions to keep a safe environment.
ADDITIONAL
INFORMATION:
Daddy's Secret Garden
& Mu Phi Omicron Sorority
Daddy's BabyGirl
Haven
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