Dear Lacy, I have been in Second Life for over two years and
have been in the dating scene just as long. Within my time here I must have
slept with about 25 guys. As time passes, my interest in sex in SL has faded
and doesn’t seem as exciting as it once was. I recently met a great guy that is
so much fun to hang out with but he is interested in more. I am afraid if I
don’t put out, he will move on. How can I bring back that desire again so that
we can have an exciting relationship? Should I just fake SL sex to make him
happy?
Dear Struggling, let’s consider a few things, what is your motivation for being in SL in the
first place, are you here to socialise, or are you here to use the platform as
a creative outlet, or maybe a combination of both? I am going to assume for the sake of this
column that you are here to socialise.
Next what does socialising mean to you, are you here to take a break
from a mundane RL, or are you looking for a meaningful relationship with a view
to taking it into RL? I am going to
presume that it is the latter since you mention you have been ‘on the dating
scene’ for most of your time in SL.
Therefore since I have assumed that you are looking for something real
to transpire, my advice would be that you to fake the SL sex, it will give you
some insight into whether your guy has any kinks you may not be able to deal
with. You can bet your bottom dollar,
that if he wants to tie you up in SL he is going to want to tie you up in
RL. You may think that you are just
going along to keep him happy, but sex in SL is so cerebral anyway that you will
find that you derive some satisfaction from it yourself, plus you will know
what makes your man tick so much better, giving you the opportunity to decide
whether you want to pursue the relationship or not.
Good luck and much happiness
Lacy M
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Ugh, this is really an issue? Tell him to go to a porn site and relieve himself.
ReplyDeletelol @ Serra's comment. Apparently it is an issue for this busy girl. lol
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